So today, as I was browsing YouTube casually to give myself
some respite from studying for the finals, I came upon a video by a channel
called ‘charisma on command’ which talked about how to gain charisma and be
likable around people, using the example of one of the largest and most
respectable you-tuber of all time-PewDiePie.
Despite huge seemingly career-wrecking scandals and scathing articles
written against him by huge media conglomerates, he still perseveres and
remains to be one of the most respected and loved personalities on the site.
After watching that video, I had an epiphany of sorts, hence the rest of this
post. This goes out to all the people who think they can’t achieve anything,
reached an impasse in life and feel like they’re inferior, and to act as a revelation
for those who think they are superior to others in some way, shape or form.
I realized that to be the most positive that you can be and
to radiate positivity, you must be happy or in the least content with who you
are. Through learning and experience I have understood that humans are in their
core unchanging and set in their behaviors. There are a few base personality traits
that are integral to an individual, and one must identify and use their traits
to their advantage. No matter how worthless or inexperienced with daily life
one may feel, there is in every human being one or for the most part more than
one attribute to their personality and ideas that they can refine and make
better. Also, it is imperative that one recognizes the good as well as the bad
in oneself so that the good can be made better and the bad can be worked upon
for improvement. So, know thyself.
Secondly, self-deprecation is a weapon that can be used
effectively to help improve one’s own personality as well as gain respect and
recognition among others. The idea is to ‘use one’s own weapon on oneself to
gain immunity against it’. Know your own weaknesses to leverage that also in
your favor by being self-aware enough that before anybody else has a critical
point to make of it, make it yourself. Make fun of yourself, but not to the
point of self-deprecation or becoming the ‘class clown’, if you will. In this
way, you will be aware of your own shortcomings and other people pointing a
finger at you will not matter much in the scheme of things- as you would have
known, talked, and joked about them yourself.
Thirdly, one must always be happy with who they are and what
they do. A complete fulfillment in what one does exudes confidence, and
confidence is a people magnet in any situation. Joy is infectious and when
people see you happy and observe the tenacity and passion with how you live
life, it would fascinate them. Happiness is contagious, and obviously people
like to be happy, so they will gravitate towards someone who has a cheerful
disposition. Moreover, displaying confidence makes people perceive you as
someone with great integrity, and some may even look up to you as a role model.
One can construe from all this that developing these
positive habits will take time and effort- but there is a huge payoff at the
end. You will become a better person for yourself and for others, get better at
focusing on your purpose in life and people will be more naturally favor being
in your presence.
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